ShortEditorial Dispatch

When You're Addicted to Validation

Likes, approval, praise, being needed.

Abraham of London
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You check.

After you post. After you speak. After you give.
You check to see if it was received.

A like. A reply. A compliment.
Someone noticed. Someone approved.

And for a moment, you feel okay.

But the feeling fades.
And you need it again.


Validation is not evil.
But needing it to function is a kind of addiction.

And the problem with external validation
is that you never have enough
because it was never meant to fill you.

This week, do one good thing without telling anyone.

Give without recording it.
Help without posting it.
Create without sharing it.

See what it feels like to be whole
without an audience to confirm it.

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