ShortEditorial Dispatch

When You Keep Lending Your Strength to People Who Drain You

The reader confuses compassion with endless availability.

Abraham of London
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You're the one people come to.

The listener. The fixer. The one who holds it together
so everyone else can fall apart.

But here's what you won't admit:

Some of the people you're helping
aren't healing.
They're just using your strength
to avoid their own responsibility.


Compassion without boundaries
is not love. It's enabling.

And enabling doesn't help anyone.
It delays the reckoning they need to face.

This week, try something uncomfortable:

Withdraw one form of emotional labour.
Not forever. Just enough to see what happens.

Does the person step up?
Or do they find someone else to carry what they refuse to carry?

Love does not require self-erasure.
You can care deeply and still protect your life.

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