Some people can argue and move on.
You?
Conflict hits deeper.
It feels like rejection.
Like something is about to end.
So you either over-explain,
or shut down,
or apologise too fast -
just to make the tension disappear.
Here's the likely truth:
You're not afraid of disagreement.
You're afraid of what disagreement used to mean.
Maybe in your past:
- conflict meant punishment
- conflict meant withdrawal
- conflict meant humiliation
So your body treats it like danger.
Healthy relationships can hold tension.
They can disagree without threatening love.
But you won't experience that
if you keep reacting like every conflict is a break-up.
This week, practice a new response:
- breathe before you speak
- ask: "Are we safe?"
- say: "I don't want to fight - I want to understand."
If the other person can't hold that, note it.
Because your healing isn't just learning to argue.
It's learning to stay present
without panicking.
Conflict is not betrayal.
Sometimes it's the pathway to deeper trust.